I DO totally agree with this toast. A praise to all the nice and unappreciated guys out there! They´re probably keeping female suicide rates far lower than they ever consider. Yep, the world would be a lot worse if it weren´t for people like you guys, nice and friendly men who actually LISTEN. Cheers to you!
But, I have to say, my pitty for being one of the most unlaid species in the world is somewhat limited. After a certain age you ought to know your priorities. If the rules are so clear to you, why don´t you use them to your advantage? It shouln´t actually be hard, because you spent hours and hours listening to the object of your desire, earning her trust, talking to her, thinking about her. But instead of getting up and working on your dreams you just decide to stay put and play a chunk of rock: supporting, unchanging, tame, boring. You don´t DO anything, you just suffer.
How can you judge females to say one thing and do another when you are just the same? (I want her! But I´m not gonna do what it takes to get her!) When it comes down to it, why are you even so attached to this self-centered, insecure, ungrateful little bitch? Could it be that hurt is a part of the glue that keeps you by her side, wanting her? If you´d have the guts, you´d long ago either have laid or left her. But there are two problems: You are good, and you love her.
Let me make it clear: Love is holy, I don´t want to desecrate it. It´s just that love alone has never, ever been enough. It´s an undirected flame, burning up it´s fuel (you) without results. Puff. If you are truly convinced that no one loves her as you do, and therefore you would be the caring boyfriend she so deserves, then you should work on making her love you, for her own good. Channel that flame for her into something constructive. Every relationship at every stage needs work. Constant, tedious work. Not all of it is fun.
But you don´t even need to really BE bad. Just the (credible) illusion of some depth and danger will do, slowly working its way into her brainstem. She must never know, of course, that you actually hate to play the asshole for her now and then, because that would let her know once and for all that YOU are HER victim. No one makes efforts to keep what they take for granted. You must understand: routine is boredom, and you have to MAKE her want you. It´s not gonna happen by itself, after an eternity of being her teddy bear. Who suddenly falls in love with his/her old teddy bear?
You yourself are killing any chance for being taken seriously by her because you behave like a doormat. Killing spree in GTA3 and she´s calling because of some supid rumours? Be there for her - in an hour. Two sentences of her boyfriend make her cry like a baby? Tell her some form of your opinion that she will understand - like "I think you should TALK to him about it" - and let her grow up. Be a friend - in a sensible way, anticipating her needs AND respecting your own ones.
In short, be a MAN. Do what it takes but keep your good heart.
REAL assholes are for the REAL asshole females. YOU are for a good girl ;-)
